Happiness is an attribute to success. In order to savour its fragrance one has to
live up to the supreme will of the Almighty, which our first parents failed to
adhere to. Garden of Eden was abounding
in God’s love but the first couple failed to capitalize on it. Incidentally, Adam and Eve failed to decipher
the writing on the wall. Probably
because they missed their childhood and the schooling days; or may be they had
no past to rely upon because they were born adults.
“The reason people find it difficult to be
happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse
than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be” ……
Marcel Pagnol
Despite having the whole world at their disposal and the
Almighty constantly by their side, God Himself became a suspect in their eyes,
and they pressed ahead to grab a formula that could place them at par with the
Almighty. At the cost of an undeserved gift of love and happiness, they had to
per force accept a life of nothingness on a barren and desolate earth.
On their way out of Eden Eden
Marooned in a
world of loneliness and desolation and left with a companion to feed and care
for, man set about tilling the soil and taming cattle for a living. Time moved,
centuries crossed and civilization after civilization dawned on man, as he
grappled with living problems, took on challenges, adopted strategies that
could deliver on the vital problems of life and with the advancement of time,
made much inroads in to many of the hurdles and complexities of life. Man’s
descendants followed suit and gradually through dexterous use of reason and
intellect, he rose to prominence. Prosperity smiled on him and he soon found
himself at the threshold of a modern era – an age of scientific inventions and
notable achievements. Man’s living style changed and he became self sufficient
for his everyday needs. Irrespective of the role played by each, in his or her
capacity, the bond of oneness enabled humanity to provide a glimpse of a better
and advanced world.
The duo
combination, consisting of man and woman, successfully achieved a speck of an
earthly glory that can, at best, be counted among part of a whole of what was
lost in the Garden of Eden. Although the world affairs have always been
dominated by the male category, the role of women and their contribution in
overall progress and development of a civilized world came to be recognized
only towards the second half of the twentieth century. Nevertheless, it is a universally
acknowledged fact that man could not have achieved this remarkable feat single
handedly without the might of women, who have hitherto acted as the driving
force from behind. In effect, the combination of man and woman achieved the
impossible by sticking together through thick and thin, thus becoming capable
of exploring the far ends of a world that always appeared a void to the human
eye.
What needs
special mention here is the fact that man within an average life span of say 40
to 60 years has managed to secure the key to a string of mysteries surrounding
the earth and the universe, which would have been nearest to impossible without
the active connivance of both the species ruling the world. To put it plainly, a little child that crawls
out of the arms of its mother, slowly steadies himself on his own feet and
shyly learns to interact with grown-ups and elders, gradually transforms
himself in to a force to reckon with, asserting his capability to take huge
leaps in to position of bidding for the lowest depths, highest peaks and
unending galaxies glittering in the horizon.
Man has
always been in the forefront of universal reforms and development, and in
today’s world it is his unstinted efforts coupled with determination that enabled
an otherwise barbarous world to have been disciplined in to submission that has
made an era of reason and intelligence possible. Unfortunately, with man’s
soaring ambitions and a chain of notable achievements, man tends to develop
inertia towards those around him and the safest and easiest target to let go
his temperament is the woman.
Rose T (a
Gather.com member) pieced out her forthright view on how the ideological split
between couples develop. Here take her
say on the topic verbatim:
“In the beginning
there was no such thing as marriage. The people of God were chaste, pure and
undefiled bodies totally merged in to Him. Slowly sin crept in for defilement of
the body through all means of decadence and
started voiding all the inbreed
instincts of coupling with another”.
The matching odours/pheromones became less and less, as the ego and vanities crept in, and with it came dominance of man over woman to fulfill his needs. Through vanity the natural became un-natural and the lust for flesh ran amuck”.
The clarity and pronounced manner in which Rose T
highlighted the emergence of a freak and polluting mentality among people that
compels people to succumb their base instincts is not far from the rock bottom
truth. The following could be an
illustration in this direction.
A little boy asked his mother “why do you cry?” “Because I am a woman”, she answered. “I
don’t understand”, he said. His mother hugged him and said: “and you never
will”.
Later the little boy asked his father “Why does mummy
cry?” “All women cry for no reason”, was all that his father could answer. When he became an adult he asked God. “God,
why do women cry so easily?”
And God answered:
When I created woman, she needed to be special, I created
her shoulder strong enough to bear the weight of the world, and soft enough to
be comfortable. I gave her the strength to give life, the kind that accepts the
rejection that often comes from children. I gave her the strength to allow her
to go on when everybody else give up, the kind that takes care of her family,
despite illness and fatigue.
I gave her the sensitivity to love her children
unconditionally even when they have hurt her deeply, I gave her the strength to
endure her husband in his faults. And to stay at his side without weakening!
You see my son, the beauty of a woman is not in the
clothes she wears nor is it in her face or in the way she does her hair.
The beauty of a woman resides in her eyes. It is the door
to her heart, the door where love resides. And it is often through her tears
that you see her heart go by!
“The tears of a woman” – is what the world ought to
behold. The other side of Eve that only God saw and understood and so forgave
her and her husband. The tears of love that hide the pain and anguish within
and yet stays by the bedside of her companion in time of illness praying for
his well-being and with folded hands at his deathbed with a supplication to God
for his safety.
Happiness is a voyage, not a destination. Let us endeavour
to share it in equal measure with any and everyone who consent to give us
company. If this can be achieved, then we can together arrive at a destination
so that at the door of death, we need not find ourselves alone, for the joy of
oneness during those solitary moments might possibly earn us an undivided joy
of infinity and eternity in the company of Almighty God.
So, there - still searching for the formula to end the
tremors of oneness? The equation is
still a long way but keep the vigil on.
Get the pluses in; allow the minuses to stick on but before the divide
shows up, the equation would have done a formula that should balance the
combination. But the real formula, a viable one for that matter is still a long
way off! But for a caution, we need to
remember that –
Divorce is an ignorant, costly and irreparable (*subject
to penitence) insult to God!
Will
be back!
